The new Fixate Cookbook is here! Join my Slim after Summer Challenge Group and receive a free copy!

We just got the mail --😊 yippee! 📦🎉
Perfect timing to fine tune my meal plan! I've been hoping they would come out with a cookbook for a long time! Autumn's recipes are always so simple and delicious!😋👍🏼
Its awesome to have the container portions listed right along with the recipe! 
I can't wait to share it with you as well as introduce it in my challenge group that begins next Monday! I am already seeing some of the recipes and they look amazing!
21 day fix here we come😊 ❓Would you like to be part of this special group to work on:
☑ starting or renewing good habits for the busy fall schedule
☑looking awesome for football season🏈 p.s. It's almost football season 🎉🏈🎉😉 ‪#‎gohuskers‬ ☑ fall prep includes getting into the practice of preparing simple healthy meals
☑ getting back on track or beginning an exercise program after summer vacation
☑ most importantly !! ❤❤framing a positive mindset and spending 30 days getting inspiration and motivation from a group of amazing people! I can tell you firsthand how truly important this is!
myself as your personal coach is here to help cheer you on 👏🏼and be with you every step of the way💃 💟 spend the next 30 days with me in a private group ready to share ideas and motivation💟
Let's do this👍🏼💪💠
♦message me for details♦
Oh-- how could I forget! 😆
I have's five spots left and I personally giving a fixate cookbook with each purchase of a 21 day fix or 21 day fix extreme challenge pack!
I want to enable you to rock this thing !! and give you the best tools available!😊😊
👑 I have yet to have a customer that participated and my 21 day fix challenge group that did not have success or regret their purchase! Give it a chance and see what all the fuss is about! 💠I am incredibly excited to help you achieve your goals!
Whos in?
Please click on the link and fill out the challenge group application to the right to be considered.  There are 5 spots left!  Get started now so you don't miss out!

It is Well With My Soul

What a beautiful morning with Jesus. ☕☕
So much perspective he's given me. I was looking back in some old notes from last fall--- and reading 1Thessalonians-- so many things spoke to me. 
I've experienced a time of growth in a way the last few months, or a time to grow from we shall say --as long as I Let God take over, isn't that always it? Putting him back on the throne 🙏🏻🙏🏻instead of me?
I always write everything down, thoughts, questions, it's how my brain processes, are you that way? ✴
I think it's not as common, my scattered notes to no end typically leave people smiling in confusion... But I always draw the arrows and word pictures that work in my own mind and it helps my memory and thoughts process. Even with Math I remember creating my own word problems for comprehension.
Rabbit trail: back to my point 😁😊❤
It's crazy how you can quote things in your mind like "seek approval from God not Man" as life is rushing by, but until the Time is quiet and the Holy Spirit's peace and presence is felt, it doesn't register in my heart and change me.
This selfie is a moment not of narcacism but of freedom, in his peace, presence and life he gives me. Owning my imperfections and knowing my inside has to be beautiful and from him so that my outside can show Joy instead of hurt, anxiety , fear or confusion.
I am excited about this week, excited to renew my mind and body. It's time👍🏼😊

Clean Eats Brownies! You will NEVER guess what's in them!

Ingredients

• 1 can (15 oz) black beans
• 1/2 cup Pure Maple syrup
• 1/2 cup Bobs Red Mill Pastry Flour or a gluten free flour
• 1/2 cup egg whites

• 1/4 cup unsweetened cocoa
• 2 tbsp vanilla
• 1 tsp baking powder
• 6 tbsp mini semisweet chocolate chips--I use sunspire

Directions

Preheat oven to 350°F. Lightly coat a 8x8 baking dish with unrefined organic coconut oil. In a food processor or high powered blender (I use my vitamix), mix all brownie ingredients (except chips) together. Chop on high, until smooth. Clean off sides and blend for another 20 seconds. Add the chips and stir well. Spread into the 8x8 baking dish. Bake for 20 minutes, until toothpick comes out clean. Cool for about 1 hour at room temperature.

FABULOUS!!!!

21 Day Fix Extreme, My Journey

Name:  Jen Zakaras

Give me a short paragraph about yourself:  I am a loan officer, mom of 7 year old girl and 10 year old boy… I am a EEK “Dance Mom” … I have lost 30 pounds so far with Beachbody programs since Sep 2013 … I tend to lose 10 and stay the same ---- I have endometriosis so I can be off a week of the month but I never really fall to old habits.  I did have some steroid/adrenal issues last summer that caused me to gain 10 pounds so I’ve lost 40 because I lost 10 again with insanity :0) I just have to be really strict to lose weight.  I love working out/eating healthy and have done so since 1997.  I used to be a little body builder girl before I got married and had kids but have struggled with weight my entire life.

Why are you doing the 21 Day Fix (Extreme) Group?  It’s time to stop the “lifestyle” method and go hard core.  Do it til it’s gone … and I need this right now, I’m ready!  I’ve done slow and steady and YES made a TON of changes but it’s time to make a HUGE change in a short period of time.  I need it.  As a coach I need it too.  Seeing myself in a few pictures…. Was eye opening.  It’s like, wow.. in my mirror I didn’t look that bad!  Why do I look so different in real life?  It’s motivating for sure and I want to look like what my personality is on the inside.  I was able to meet Shaun T recently and I had a great time but would have had SO much more fun if I wasn’t the only overweight person there.  I wanted to scream “but you don’t know what I’ve accomplished”  you don’t know how I love to do insanity and I am the one kicking everyone else in the booty to do it!  It’s hard looking so different than how you feel.

Choose a goal to reach one week from your start date:  My goal is to follow the program exactly and that’s it.  I found if I make weight goals that doesn’t work for me because sometimes my body loses tons of inches and not weight and other times it’s weight I lose and either way it’s a success if I did what I was supposed to.  Specifically I also want to journal all my food and put it on my like page which I haven’t shared to the public yet J

What is your week 2 goal:  stick with it with the same intensity as week one.  Have a complete calendar and meal plan in place and purchased and prepared by Sunday.  Workouts scheduled.

What is your week 3 goal:  After 21 days I am hoping I have lost at least 10 pounds.  I’m not sure what that brings me to because today my weigh in was 5 pounds more because I am having my cycle and endo this month so I had to take medicine that messes with my body and makes me gain temporary weight.  I also want to follow the countdown to competition plan the last week.

What is your week 4 goal: Start another round and not allow extra’s. I want two successful rounds.  I am going to have one date night/cheat in between rounds so I have something to look forward to.

What is the biggest challenge for you and why do you want to do this challenge?

My biggest challenge is too much going on at once and stress.  I like to eat healthy and work out….. it’s fun for me.  Between coaching and my full time job I get overwhelmed with everything I should be doing.  I need to keep this most important.  Also just not ever having wine etc.  I don’t drink a ton but I like to have that to look forward to on weekends but I know it’s what keeps me the same weight.  I lost 10 pounds the first month of Insanity and I didn’t’ even want wine anymore and then the holidays and my birthday etc came and slowly came back.  I liked that empowering feeling.

What a Difference a Year Makes--- My Weight Loss changes with Beachbody Programs

Ahhhhh Cafe Americano...... Thank you to the HUBBY... So in light of my shirt feeling like a dress yesterday I decided to look back at the last year and see if I really made that many changes... sometimes as you're working hard each day through life's up and downs you can forget what you accomplish in the day to day.... The Compound Effect over time.
I still get tears in my eyes.... Still am SO thankful for the amazing results you get when you don't leave anything out!
Yes we need to eat healthy, yes we need to exercise.... but how many of us know that already? I'm guessing everyone... IT'S DOING IT that is the REAL LIFE STRUGGLE!
SO THIS is the MAGIC... This is where it's at...... This is what makes a difference... Someone to encourage you.... Accountability with others.... Posting each day what my day was like good or bad in a private group, sharing the struggles and joys. Advice when needed... Education and fun for Delicious easy food to eat, and workouts done in less than 30 minutes a day that are MORE effective than the hours I've spent at the gym since 1998. Nowhere to drive, no excuses.. Just PUSHING PLAY! And on the days I don't want to? I have an ENTIRE group that does want to! I don't know HOW many times just seeing one post made me pop that DVD in before I could think twice, or say NO to the temptations of mindless eating that just makes you miserable.
I am truly thankful for not only the changes in my appearance and how I feel but my health changes as well.... and THIS is why I am so passionate about it! Because NO WHERE ELSE gets it ALL Right! I've DONE IT ALL!
Personal trainers, weight watchers, nutritionist at the Dr.... but THIS is the secret... NO MAGIC PILL...
But ME, your coach, believing in you... along with a group of people that you will MISS when you have a bad time.. and WILL come back.
I'm Thankful so much for everyone's support of my journey and my Dreams of helping others never feel small.... or alone like I felt last year, not wanting to leave my house embarrassed at how I looked and felt. This is why I WILL NOT GIVE UP ON YOU!
It's time to start thinking of what you want your year to look like, what do YOU want for your life in Dec of 2015? If you would like to lose weight, improve your health talk to me about how I can help!
OR maybe YOU have a passion for helping others in the area of health or fitness---even if you have to learn how.... and would like to join my Team in encouraging people while working on your journey at the same time and making a little extra money..... Message me and I would LOVE to support you and answer questions!
What a wonderful reflection of a year that had some really hard times.... but a blessing through it all! 

Clean Eating Banana Cream Pie -- Holiday Treats!

On our way to my moms--- banana cream pie is done!! A few people asked for the recipe. Serve with organic whipping cream use a handheld be there and add a teaspoon of vanilla and drops of Wisdom naturals Stevia to taste  

Never Give Up: Being a Health Coach

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So I'm going through my mail excited to see if Alexa's Christmas present came and I stumble upon this.  I forgot it was coming in the mail soon as I opened it, it hit me.
As the tears are falling I am trying to figure out why am so emotional.. In fact I can't stop the tears.
Maybe it's because I just completed the most amazing workout second day in a row and I'm just so thankful for this company and the friends I have made. 
But in reality I know why......Why I became a coach.....when it was so hard. So hard to be transparent about struggles deep inside when you're a fighter and don't want to show failure. Why I have endured judgement and hardship...... THIS IS WHY!
So when I started this journey I told my coach ----yes the number one coach in all of Beachbody---Who I am so thankful for Melanie Mitro That I didn't care about Rank.. YEP! That's what I said!!! I don't like opportunists and if I can't do this from the heart I won't do it.
She said that's exactly how she was (which is why she appealed to me) and felt the same way. She encouraged me to do it organically... the way I wanted. Gave me the tools support and training I needed. 
ALL I wanted Rank to mean is how many people I was able to help in some way. And you know what? That's EXACTLY what it means!!!!
So today flashing through my mind are the people I've grown to love who made me smile and brought so much to my life by putting their trust in me... this imperfect person.... to encourage them.
I'm thinking of a life that no longer has a cholesterol problem, and regained her energy, feels like herself again at the age of 52.
I am thinking of a beautiful mom and grandma that now is in her skinny jeans and is starting to realize that this is become a complete life change for her. Coming Naturally to her. 
Thinking of one of my dearest friends who went from a size 8 to a 4 and had to sell all her clothes. She was beautiful anyway but how empowering.
thinking of another young mom and friend who now eats breakfast feels better and also looks amazing....lost some weight and regained her energy for her busy life with 4 kids.
I'm thinking of another 50 something-year-old who so far lost 20 pounds and going, and another who did as well and has completely had a life change because of it. She actually now had the blood sugar levels as if she was fasting! 
I'm thinking of the lady who has been rocking her dresses on a night out with her husband and the confidence that built. 
I'm thinking of a guy who has had a HUGE transformation and supported others and shared his journey... I mean HUGE!
i'm thinking of one of my best friends who just wanted to get bikini ready for a trip to the ocean and messaged me and said thanks to the 21 Day Fix her sister was taking pictures of her in a bikini, posting them and she didn't even care.
There are SO many more people I am thinking of that have blessed me this year!
SO in the end... That's the reason for my tears..... It's the people that have BLESSED MY LIFE, made SO MANY CHANGES.. by WORKING SOO SO HARD! SHARING THEIR STRUGGLES and have HONESTLY become people I need in my life! I just want to CONGRATULATE ALL OF YOU!!! You KNOW who you are!!! YOU ARE TRULY AMAZING!!!!

No Excuses--- Healthy Lifestyle=Prevent Disease

I almost didn't post this... but with a few tears I feel like i have to. It's why I have a mission... why I am crazy passionate about being a Processed Free Facilitator and a Coach. 
I woke up today a mix of TOTALLY excited for INSANITY DAY and also Frustration.... 
Couldn't sleep for a bit thinking of someone I love with some imminent health concerns that could get better. Wanting SO much some of the stress to stop for them and also....
I WISH they would take the opportunity to try a healthy lifestyle.... or try to understand it at least. Things taste Better, you feel better and in this case you won't Die! I also wish most sick people didn't have an Accomplice... You know what I'm talking about? The mate or person in their life that not boldly but in small ways really doesn't want them to change their lifestyle and aids in the process of destruction. 
Real foods.... Healthy Foods... You can make ALMOST anything amazing!
Today I am thinking about two TOTALLY different kinds of people here.....
1. The people that are scared to try Insanity Max 30 but secretly wish you Could and no it's not for everyone... but for many more than you think!
2. Are you someone who can't breathe? Feels tired? Feels like you are TOO old to change, to feel ok or have given up, think you've lived your lot--- or maybe not older but think this is how I was born and I'm stuck this way? 
that is NOT true! You ABSOLUTELY can change the way you feel! No matter WHAT shape you are in and who you are... for some it's about the Small Baby Steps but TRUST ME... Baby steps start changing your cells and how you feel IMMEDIATELY!!!! 
Anyone can start very small, like add fresh vegetables to two meals a day. Drinking 8 glasses of water a day. I drink 16! 
**THIS IS NOT A JUDGEMENT ON ANYONE AND SOME THINGS WE CANNOT CONTROL... THAT IS NOT WHAT I MEAN, Trust me.. I've been THERE! Or somethings we can learn we can control now.. if we didn't know before!
We've all been there, It's not about being perfect... but it's just about realizing YOU HAVE SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU THAT WANTS YOU TO LOVE YOURSELF SO YOU CAN BE HERE WITH THEM! Watching a swift decline in health of a loved one is HARD... especially when it's unfortunate circumstance. Some is stress from the outside world... but setting the stage with a healthy lifestyle Does allow you to process stress better than not. Steroids took away my ability to handle stress and it was SO destructive! If you can find a way to handle stress better, DO it!
Now If you HAVE already been working on a healthy life style but are in a rut... and scared to try something like Insanity.. or anything else. Now is the time to think--- WOW... Maybe I COULD do that? SOOO many people that started with Insanity a few years ago looked like someone that never should be trying it... but they took it Day by Day, mod by mod.. Max by Max and Pushed through! Be BOLD today! Take control of your CIRCUMSTANCE!!!! 
I will NEVER forget a few years ago when I finished the Insanity Test.. and rocked it--- I literally Bawled. I didn't believe I could but was Determined!
With that I better get my butt out of the office and go workout......‪#‎youareloved‬ ‪#‎youareworthit‬ ‪#‎makeithappen‬ ‪#‎nevergiveup‬

Insanity max 30

OH. MY. GOODNESS!!!! It's almost here!! It feels like Christmas! I can hardly wait! -- I am so excited to kick off my next online support group with THIS NEW WORKOUT! Insanity Max 30! TOMORROW is the day!

There is definitely a science behind all those results you see!

If you are interested in participating in an EXCLUSIVE TEST GROUP---> WELL, this is your INVITATION! Let's get moving!

Are you ready to push your body past it's comfort zone?
#MAXOUT

What to expect?

- 30 minute home workouts
- Daily nutrition through shakeology and clean eating meal plans
- Portion Control Meal Plan
- Peer Support
-Accountability
- Personal Coaching

From the program you can expect:
*150 NEW MOVES
*LOW IMPACT MODIFIER
*COLOR CODED CONTAINERS (Fix Friendly- and Portion Control Planner)

And…

You will also get a free Insanity Max 30 t-shirt JUST for completing the program. By being one of the FIRST to have mind blowing results you will be eligible for $500, $1000 and a $25K grand prize!

Have any questions? Post directly to the wall or email me jenzakaras@cox.net or complete the application below.

http://jenzakaras.wufoo.com/forms/challenge-group-application/

I have 5 spots and 2 are gone!

It will be an EXCITING way to ring in the new year with killer results and confidence!


The gift of health is the gift that never stops giving. Please invite your friends and family. This is an open invitation to anyone who wants to get healthy, take it up a notch or keep the Holiday weight from creeping up. There's no such thing as resolutions, just COMMITMENT!

Clean Eating Pancakes-Choc Chip Banana :) 21 Day Fix and Kid approved!

These are my Favorite Pancakes and my families too!  You can make any version you want!  We usually make Banana but today I threw in a little surprise!
Choc Chip Banana Pancakes... Yep, you got that right --- they were DEVOURED!
**Just a momma hint... they loved them with just the banana too so maybe get them used to just the fruit first so you don't have to put the choc in EVERY Time!

These babies are QUICK and DELICIOUS :)



Ingredients:
Dry:
Bob's Red Mill Pastry Flour 1 cup
1 teaspoon cinnamon
1/2 tsp baking soda
1 teas baking powder (Aluminum free)

Wet Ingredients:
1 cup of organic milk or almond or coconut.  I used 1/3 cup Thai lite coconut concentrate and added water to make a cup.
1/2 cup plain yogurt (I use trader joes organic greek)
1 organic egg
1 teas vanilla

Organic unrefined coconut oil to cook them in

Get out two mixing bowls.. mix dry and wet separately... then add together and stir until mixed but not overly so.  Then add whatever fun you want!

My usual is two banana's cut in little pieces.. add stir

This time I did one banana and 1/4 cup sunspire choc chips!  So nummy!

Blueberries would be amazing, I would use half a cup small frozen and see if that is enough.. my son won't eat blueberries so we usually have them fresh on the side when in season.  We also have strawberries on the side and top with organic 100% grade B maple syrup.. SO good!

Heat up your skillet to med/med/low (do not let them get black or over burnt, that is not healthy) and melt the coconut oil.  Put a half a cup scoop in the pan and watch until it bubbles, flip and cook until done and continue.  I usually put a small new dab of coconut oil before each pancake.

Encouragement during the hard times......

I just want to encourage all of you out there that my have an injury, chronic illness, migraines, or anything that challenges you. 

I truly understand it makes it hard to be real, be out there... Most people don't know but a few of my closer friends but this past year I have realized I have endometriosis. This is something that comes on and you never know when... for example last Thursday in the middle of the night. The pain is so great you can't sit, stand or walk... and that is even on heavy painkillers.... you honestly feel like someone is stabbing you with a knife. Continuously, without fail..... so how does this make me feel as someone who loves to workout, eat healthy and is truly enjoying helping others do the same???

Emotionally it can be hard. You feel like a bad example, worthless to your family.. and most of all you feel like you can't really talk about it because you don't want to be "that" person... no one wants to hear about it right? 

Those are LIES... your VALUE is just as much. So here is the thing....whatever you may be struggling with..... there is usually a time of good... when it goes away and you feel free. In THOSE moments you can be yourself.. in THOSE moments you feel such joy to just feel pain free, normal... What I want to encourage you to do is think of your health as a wave in the ocean, much like life. With ups and downs. Yes.. you may have more to overcome then a person who needs to make a decision and do it, sometimes you're simply not capable.. and I UNDERSTAND that! However... IF you don't give up... continue the fight, to make the MOST out of each and every day. Those weeks you feel good.... THEY will bring PROGRESS, and the weeks you don't.. yes. You may stay the same, or have some set backs. But without giving up the waves of up and down will eventually find you meeting your goal. If your goal is losing weight, 5 pounds one week and staying the same the next is STILL 5 pounds! 

EVERY bit of exercise you can do to the best of your ability one week benefits you. This past week I had my awful moments.. and I've had the moments where the medicine was working enough, enough to workout. It was motivating in a way because I knew if I waited too long the opportunity may not be there later.. so yes, I've done it Sat, Mon, Wed... but that is 3x more than many people do in a week! 

I know it's easy to just want to feel normal, pain free and able like so many others. I sometimes feel so small because my will is there and I AM DRIVEN, I am told I am a GREAT COACH!  This is hard for me to say, I don't want to sound arrogant but it's for a purpose... it's to say that these lies we believe are negative and we need to push them away and understand we have a story, a story someone needs to hear!  It doesn't matter if we are not perfect, or our progress takes time.  Who is inspired by perfection?  Who's live is REALLY like that?  What matters is you don't throw in the towel...you continue to look up, even through the struggles and do the best you can.

Don't compare....Don't feel less than and don't give in to your circumstances. Try to make the most of the moments you have that can be REALLY GOOD. Remember 80% of health is what you eat. As time passes you are STILL growing as a person and living the healthiest version of YOU! 

Message me if you would like encouragement.... I really have a heart for you, whether it's just a listening ear or you would like me to come along side and help you with your achieve your health goals.  I do not want anyone to feel small and alone. Thanks for listening..... Hugs 

Black Bean Brownies 21 Day Fix approved and DELICIOUS!

• 1 can (15 oz) black beans
• 1/2 cup organic maple syrup
• 1/2 cup Bobs Red Mill Pastry flour
• 1/2 cup egg whites

• 1/4 cup unsweetened cocoa or raw cacoa
• 2 tbsp vanilla
• 1 tsp baking powder
• 6 tbsp mini semisweet chocolate chips

Directions

Preheat oven to 350°F. Lightly coat an 8x8 baking dish with unrefined organic coconut oil. In a food processor, mix all brownie ingredients (except chips) together. Chop on high, until smooth. Clean off sides and blend for another 20 seconds. Add the chips and stir well. Spread into the 8x8 baking dish. Bake for 20 minutes, until toothpick comes out clean. Cool for about 1 hour at room temperature.

Stuffed Peppers

Stuffed Peppers

Ingredients 

1 lb ground chicken
4 peppers, I prefer red 
1 bag of seeds of change quinoa and brown rice (microwave for 90 seconds, found at whole foods or costco)
14.5 oz can of diced tomatoes no salt 
Tablespoon of coconut oil
1 onion diced
2 cloves garlic diced 
Salt and pepper
Oregano 
Basil 
Cayenne pepper (optional)
Parmesan cheese - tablespoon 

Preheat oven to 350

Prepare peppers by cutting tops off and clean out insides and put aside. 
Brown chicken in skillet in a tablespoon of coconut oil. Once brown, drain if necessary but leave a little oil. Add diced onions and cook together until onions are soft. Add in garlic and sauté all together. Add salt and pepper and cayenne to taste. Add cooked quinoa to chicken mixture then add diced tomatoes, oregano and basil. Stir together while on heat and then add in Parmesan cheese. 

Stuff peppers with mixture and put in a baking dish with a little water in bottom and cover with foil. Cook at 350 for about 45 minutes depending on how large the peppers are. Take foil off after 35 minutes to let brown a little.

Minestrone Soup: Delicious Heatlhy comfort food

This comfort soup is the perfect fall healthy soup to have on hand... I love it and so do the kids!

Ingredients:

• 1 large onion, diced
• 2 tbsp organic unrefined coconut oil (can use olive oil at low temps)
• 4 garlic cloves, minced
• 2 ribs celery diced (1/2 cup)
• 1 large carrot, peeled and diced
• 1 medium zucchini (about 8 oz), diced
• 1 tsp dried oregano
• 1 tsp dried basil
• 1tsp salt
• 1/2 tsp freshly ground black pepper
• 6 cups low-sodium vegetable broth or low sodium chicken broth (48oz)
• 1 28 oz can no salt added diced tomatoes
• 1 15 oz can no salt added crushed tomatoes
• 1 15 oz can low sodium cannellini beans, drained and rinsed
• 1/2 cup brown rice elbow pasta
• 1/3 cup finely shredded Parmesan cheese
• 2 tbsp fresh chopped parsley leaves

Instructions:

• In a large soup pot over medium-high heat cook and stir onion in hot oil 3 minutes or until translucent.  Add garlic; cook for 30 seconds.  Add celery and carrot. Cook and stir 5 minutes, until vegetables begin to soften.  Add zucchini, oregano, basil, salt, and pepper.  Cook for 2 minutes, stirring frequently.
• Add the broth and the diced and crushed tomatoes.  Bring to boiling.  Reduce heat to medium low.  Simmer uncovered for 10 minutes.  Add the beans and pasta.  Cook 10 to 15 minutes more until pasta and vegetables are tender.  Top servings with cheese and parsely.  Makes 6 servings.

Each Serving:  236 calories, 7 g fat, 2 mg chol, 719 mg sodium, 36 g carb, 9 g fiber, 10 g protein.

When you Pray.....

Listening can be the hard part right? 

I often find I take the first day to talk at God and then take several days to listen to his response. Usually each day getting a little more of me out and a little more of him in. (Only he can take the stubbornness out of me :) ☺️ 

One of the most life-changing things I remember from a message that it's okay to feel the emotion of anger, frustration, hurts--it's what you do with that that matters! 

How do you process it ---what do you listen for, what are you willing to hear ? what you want? What God wants? Take time to process your emotions and listen for God's response, he will take out all the junk and bring a list of reality; it's invaluable!